90/10

Today I decided to come 5 minutes earlier just to fill up the gas. When my driver saw me standing outside the gate he rushed in trying to show that he is sorry for being late. Not realizing because of his hastiness his bike kissed my car front right bumper. Yup, it scratched big time and I am just about to start the day. I was just about to get mad but then again I said to myself hang on what will it do if I get mad will the scratch get away. Seeing his face with guilt is just enough I suppose. Not to mention "it's just a thing!".

I practice the 90/10 there is 10% things which we can't do about -in this case the scratch - it was not me who cause it but I have 90% control of not blowing of the steam to my driver. If I blew the steam and my driver lost concentration and drove in a foul mood the only thing could happen would be inviting accident on the road. Why would I even do that?
So thank to Stephen Covey, I decided not to get angry and said to him", For future 5 minutes late is fine compare to an accident - Safety number one".

I said to myself a scratch will not take my happiness.

Artefact

We just got a brand new piano at home, man that thing weigh at 250 kg surprise how it can be brought upstairs by 3 people. After the piano is well placed in the second floor and officially moving out my clothes hanger. I realised there is a need to take out some of my old clothes and throw it away, old habits not to throw old things caught me eventually. It's not like I will ever use those clothes anyway, so why not give it to the poor at least it can make a smile on their face. While folding the clothes one by one, I found one shirt that was given to me on my birthday back in 1997 yup it has been 12 years ago, a blue stripe colour T-shirt. It was torn a bit and I never got around to even throw it away just because it was given by somebody special but I realized that you can't hold on to the past and move to the future at the same time.
And so I decided to take the last look on that shirt fold it together with other shirt of mine and give it to the poor. Now I safe 30 seconds of my time every morning because I have more space and not to have to choose between new and old shirt all are now put in such an order I just have to pick them from right to left.

If you really really want to appreciate the experience take a pic.

The lesson is easy:
1. Things you have never use for years may not be something you need after all time to give to someone who need it.
2. If you use the slight time on your past, you basically takes out time for your brain to do wondrous in the future.
3. Time is precious if you don't have time to tidy up and throw away things it'll catch u someday, just like saying "I am too busy driving and forgot to fill the gas."

I'm Here

I'm here. Such simple words yet such powerful impact. In office life we depend each other between leaders and their subordinates. Leaders can have a lot of opinion and ways to appraise their team, one thing I find it as part of the most important one would be these words coming out from them "I'm here". It's not just merely a saying but it represents the fact that he/she is there it shows that he/she is dependable. Being dependable can go along way for our development.
If you have a self image of a "rock" or a "citadel" or anything that represents strong and steadiness you will definitely be able to act as a dependable person and can say "I'm here" out loud on any occassions you might encounter.

It is a gradual steps , start from being dependable on every agreement you have made start from just fulfilling the promise and gradually start honoring both promise and time cause most things become stale if it was over the deadline.

Being dependable can go across the board it can be
Dependable to my family
Dependable to my partner
Dependable to my boss
Dependable to my subordinate
Dependable to my students
Dependable to myself

Make a commitment and do as follows
Visual : Imagine a strong object that will not budge (i.e. Citadel)
Auditory : Saying it inside or outloud (your preference) "I'm here!"
Kinestethic : Stand tall and chin up ready to face the world. Calm breathing. Stay centered 2-3 cm below your belly button.

Every little success will bring confidence and next thing you know you will be dependable unconciously.

Focus on which dependability you need to prioritize and say "I'm here".

Defying the odds

Seeing people where they are surprises me. Those who have hold on to their belief and has such black and white view of the world now becomes so flexible as if rainbow come out from his mouth when discussing things. He who used to sell "manggoes" now selling stores. She who use to sell duck's egg now a CEO. Who would have think that a high school student can become a CEO?
Who would think bumble bee could fly if no one ever seen it flying.

So what is odds? Is it unsupporting data of now? Is it our past reference?

The beauty of life is that
1. Our past is not our future
2. Our future is not something we can predict

I am not saying that we should forget about planning. I am merely saying that there are times we need to strike balance between seeing the odds of the future and to focus on little things that makes a different now. Cause when the time comes we might surprise ourself on how ready we are on taking the odds. The odds seems to even out at the end.

All things are not started tomorrow but NOW. Right at our very own mindset.

A Shot of Happiness

In life we make mistakes, some decided to carry all the guilt and let it weigh them down. Smile seems to be a burden, sorrow becomes best friends, addiction to pain and punishment becomes a habit. Life never feel the same anymore.

Amazing how a mistake that has been done and over with has haunted people to make another mistake, a mistake of not enjoying the life that the Lord has given to us.
Well I was not exempted with this pain punishing exercise until one day I realized, God did not create me to suffer, God did not want me to be unproductive there was a reason I took that decision either I was not wise enough, not patient enough, not skill enough or other things. Instead of dwelling with the past I decided to take the lesson, share with the young ones on how to handle mistakes and move on.

Take the lesson
Repent
Forgive yourself
Not do the same mistake
Give a shot of happiness

Everyone has the right to have a shot in happiness and don't let anyone tell you otherwise!
In this new year, it is time to raise up again, dust yourself off and grab that happiness you've been longing for.

Your punishment has been lifted, the Lord never hold grudge cause it simply not His way.