Negotiate in long term base

When we negotiate do we see bigger picture of things, do we see it from ecological point of view.  Do we see things from perspective of me, the person who we negotiate and the best possible influence to the environment  (the ecology).

Negotiation is not about getting what we want , negotiation is about getting the best result for both the supplier and the customer , to gain the win win solutions.
It may not be that we have to win all the time. 

Negotiation has a lot to do with making sure that we don't become nasty or the person we negotiate become nasty.  It may not always be the case but always thrive to find the balance.

If we can let someone win and not bruise their ego and it can benefit the long run of ecology perhaps that is the one thing need to be considered.

There is definitely a fine line between assertive before we cross the board to become plain nasty.  It is very easy to caught up in a heated negotiation that the result would turn out ugly for both sides.  Just because we feel that the other person should pay!  This is his fault!

Are we still in the land of right or wrong?  Or should we move to a different belief? Belief that we thrive for the ecological balance and for long term relationship. 
Thrive to negotiate where the production capability will sustain for future generation.

It is very easy to be in negotiation where we sacrifice our golden goose (long term potential relationship) just to gain additional golden egg by slaying the goose one day earlier.  You will gain short term gratification that ends a relationship.

It is very important to negotiate that last for good. 

The wrong should pay!

A couple weeks ago we had add window films to our house.  The installment was not as succesful as we would like it to be there are 5 windows that was not fit properly. 
By instinct like any other great customers I file a claim not realizing after we have launch a claim we then start calculating of how much does it cost for the supplier to compensate it. It was mere couple of dollars only.  Though by rights I should receive a perfect fit on the window and if we go to right or wrong the supplier is wrong as simple as that so the supplier must pay!

Do they?  Do we really live in a world where things are govern by right and wrong.
Is there absolute truth? The truth is there is no absolute truth.
All are govern by our own perspective and perceptions of what is right base on our reference, value and beliefs.

My take on this event is that sometimes it is worth to calculate of how much are we going to gain from the claim versus the time that we would be in the situation.  Of course there will be time your inner voice would say "This is not about the money, this is principle!".  Is it? or more like ego?
When the gain is not worth the time mind as well drop it.
We do not have to win every battle concentrate on winning the war.
Always prioritize longterm to short term , the grandeur picture of things.
In simplest way would be to learn to let go and move on there are much more important things to take care.

Don't sweat the little stuff.  The little stuff/distractions that hold us up from our purpose our dream to be here for whom for what we are created.
Please always remember that.


 

Waiting Actively

Part of life would be to wait either for a bus, an mrt, a ticket show, cashier and all other stuffs.  During those moments are we using the time to our advantage?  It is easy to check out our mind during the commute to the office. We can always do the famous "anywhere but here game" but does it gives us benefit in the long run?  Most probably not.
So why not dig down inside and find that dream that goal that has been buried due to hustle bustle of our city lives. Clean it up in our mind's eye make our goal shinier as ever.
Once it is visible it is time to wait actively.  Instead of checking out our mind from our body let's prepare on things we need to do to support our long term goals/dreams.
Just like a farmer who has not seen an inch of his harvest would oil his tractor, calling his distributors, buying enough fertilizers and do all other stuffs to get ready if when the crops will spring. 
Waiting may not be the most fun thing in the world so always prepare yourself with book, notebook or any means that can make you closer to your goal.  Smartphone seems to be an option as well these days.
When you are waiting and visualized your dream on and on and on, you would soon realize that when the event does come, it comes naturally.  It becomes second nature and you can follow through the opportunity flawlessly. 
Your posture would be different when you wait actively, your body would start to appreciate the goal and when the body feels appreciated it will send lovely message to the mind.  And when the mind starts to think beautifully and actively the light inside of us will start to emit. 
The fire within will then light our soul our purpose in live for whom and for what we are exist.

When we are touched and moved spiritually, it is very hard not to succeed.



Source of inspiration : Joel Osteen.

Journal

It has been a while for me to start my journal again.
From setting my long term goals, short term goals, interest, open issue list, schedule, weaknesses, strengths and other stuff.
It feels good.

One thing about setting goals it that you don't really go to too much on how you will going to achieve it just believe you can and go from there.

From there I start to break them into long term goals and short term goals.

From short term goals I will then break it into schedule and open issue list.

Open issue lists would be those that I can do with a certain period of time and end it.  For instance like buying certain book and memorize it.  Make a presentation for certain topic and practice how to present it.

Schedule would be those that I need to do to "sharpen the saw". Like any other skills there are numbers of hour to be pledge upon.  Hamburg Rules of 10.000 hour in order to get to a place where we would be competent at skills and doing it unconciously.  The schedule works more for lifestyle related changes.

One of the schedule would be to write a blog on weekly basis.  This of course to challenge my brain and my writing skills at the same time.  The more you do it the more you would become.

Weaknesses and Strengths would be part of the skills that I need to polish further or to ask help from my colleague.

These are some of the points I made in my journal.
What about yours?  Have you  start making your own journal?

Every giant leap starts with a small step.  So let's start, let's start with something as little as creating a file or buy a book where you can update your journal.
Make your journal as fun and as exciting as your life would be.

A journey that does not have up and down may not worth the journey.
So let's go and have fun :)


 

Power of Love

Woke up on Sunday flipping channels and got caught in one interesting title called "
Screening Humanity" in KBS world.  The reality show is about an Indonesian lady who married a Korean man with impaired hearing and speech.  They have three sons all are healthy.  There were so many touching moment in the episodes.
At glance we would think how can they survive with all the bills to pay electricity, gas etc but yet they make the best out of their lives.
From harvesting sesame seed, drying red chilli, having an affordable picnic.
Throughout the movie I am amazed of how much Mari (the Indonesian lady) would love her husband and their parent in law so much.  Such a big heart no complain and constant laughter throughout live.
There was one scene where the mother in law goes to the bank to deposit some of her money, the cameraman ask "what is it for?".  She said she feel guilty and sin to brought a child without perfect hearing and speech hence he can't get a better salary, so she is keeping all the money for her grandsons tuition where every 5 days she would go to the bank and deposit the earning.
Such love and such affections - a mom is a mom, they don't really think about what if they get old they need medication etc what they go for is their son's and grandsons' welfare first.  Human instinct to take care of the next generations.  Lesson learn about love in life.
The final episode was closed with them going picnic and the last scene was Mari having her monologue.
Her message to her husband " I will take care of our children and make sure they would grow alright, and I will be your ear and mouth.  I love you."

Such love inspired us as human to love one another, no matter what the circumstances and how the persons are.  Powerful message indeed.

Mari your laughter and your persistence has definitely inspired more than just your family.

A lady with a big heart.